How to handle dating rejection
If I could write a note to my younger self it would be: “Don’t take it all so personally.
You’re wonderful, and if someone else doesn’t see it, let that be their problem, not yours.” Unfortunately, my younger self didn’t get the memo and any type of rejection (especially from the opposite sex) would wreak havoc on my self-esteem.
So, try not to label yourself based on one interaction which was probably superficial anyway. It may also help you to maintain a better perspective and view the situation as one door closing so that another one can open.
Be careful that you don’t give your power away and allow someone who doesn’t really know you to have a great deal of influence over your self-image. If a match wasn’t interested in talking with you – well go and talk to another one, there are many more online.
The chances are that if you’ve been communicating online, or only had a couple of dates, they simply didn’t find what they were looking for. Each of us has a unique blueprint for what defines our ideal partner.
It’s formed by our past experiences, our future expectations, biological factors and personal preferences.
It’s a wonder that anyone ever finds a partner that fulfils all these criteria and when the feeling is mutual it’s a cause for celebration.
It is a healthy attitude to accept that rejection is a part of life and to acknowledge that what really matters is finding the way to bounce back and try again. You just need to keep your head up and move on because getting rejected is a normal part of life.
In the dating process it’s unlikely that the person rejecting you will have begun to really get to know you. Handling rejection and overcoming it will be helped greatly if you can maintain a positive attitude.
They are more likely to be responding to something in their own life than anything you have said or done. This will help prevent you from feeling sorry for yourself or from getting being scared off the dating process altogether.
Dealing With the Immediate Aftermath Dealing With the Rejection Long-Term Handling Rejecting a Proposal Community Q&A Any kind of rejection, no matter if it's in love, your career, friends, a book proposal or anything else, is not something that should affect how happy you are.
Rejection doesn't feel great and sometimes it feels unfathomable but it shouldn't be something you permit to take away happiness from your life.